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This can be a single incident, a repeating pattern, or a direct ask for how to handle the person. Keep it concrete.
What you saw and heard is most useful. If you want a prep plan, say directly what you need to do or say.
Use an existing dossier so the current persona stays the source of truth, or create a new person first.
Someone new
Add their basics and structural background before running the situation.
Ground the read with who they are to you, where you know them from, and what they do.
Specify the structural components of their background.
Pick the behavioral facts that sharpen the read.
No family money, no connections handed to them. Built their career and financial position from scratch.
Ivy League, Oxbridge, Stanford, or equivalent-prestige institution.
Served in the military, police, fire, or another uniformed service.
Family owns a business, practice, or institution. Grew up inside it or was expected to continue it.
A sibling was clearly the golden child. Family attention, excuses, and pride flowed disproportionately toward them.
A sibling was the family scapegoat or black sheep. Conflict, blame, or comparison in the family often organized around that role.
Among siblings, this person is the reliable or competent one everyone depends on. Family logistics, crises, or reputation often fall on them.
Still emotionally close to parents in adulthood. Frequent calls, regular visits, active deference, or visible concern for parental approval.
Low contact or no contact with one or both parents. There is a clear adult rupture rather than ordinary distance.
They still show up for obligations, but warmth is limited. Contact looks dutiful, careful, or procedural rather than relaxed.
Works nights and weekends regularly. Talks about work in social settings. Cancels plans for deadlines.
Stacks degrees, certifications, side projects. Always pursuing the next credential or accomplishment.
Deep expertise in a specific domain. The person others defer to on that subject.
Goes to church, mosque, temple, or synagogue regularly. Observes religious holidays, dietary rules, or daily practices.
Flies business class, books 5-star hotels, wears designer labels, picks the expensive restaurant.
Drives an old car, packs lunch, avoids spending — even though they could clearly afford more.
Name-drops, mentions what things cost, talks about who they know or what they have access to.
Played varsity, club, or semi-pro sports. Still trains or competes seriously.
Actively makes art, music, writing, or design. Has a body of work, not just a casual hobby.
Donates, volunteers, posts, or organizes around a specific political or social cause. It comes up often.
References memes and internet culture in conversation. Active on Twitter, Reddit, or TikTok. Curates an online persona.
Uses words like "boundaries," "attachment style," "triggers," or "holding space" in everyday conversation.
Has kids. Talks about them often, schedules around them, factors them into most decisions.
Always knows someone relevant. Introduces people constantly. Maintains a huge, active contact list.
Doesn't share personal details. Deflects personal questions. Social media is locked down or nonexistent.
Agrees when they probably shouldn't. Apologizes often. Avoids saying no. Goes along to keep the peace.
Says what they think without softening it. Doesn't sugarcoat. Other people sometimes find it harsh.
One of few people of their gender, race, or background in their workplace or industry.
Lost a parent young, survived serious illness, grew up in poverty, was displaced, or faced comparable hardship early in life.
Watches critically acclaimed shows, reads literary fiction or longform journalism, listens to NPR or 'smart' podcasts. Has strong opinions about what's good. (Taste-as-identity performance).
Rewatches the same shows, defaults to reality TV, true crime, or familiar genres. Uses media to regulate, not to signal. (Media as soothing rather than status).
Plays ranked multiplayer — League, Valorant, chess, poker. Tracks their rating. Cares about winning, not vibes.
Sinks into single-player RPGs, narrative games, or open worlds. Hundred-hour save files. Prefers exploration to competition.
CrossFit, marathon running, climbing, martial arts — belongs to the culture, follows athletes, has the gear. (Community through physical suffering).
Deep into watches, sneakers, vinyl, mechanical keyboards, vintage cars. Knowns the lore. Builds identity through curated taste.
References their childhood, college years, or a specific past era often. Romanticizes a period they felt most like themselves.
Generous with money, stingy with time (or vice-versa). Reveals which resource they consider scarce and what they're actually optimizing for.
Does their real work after 10pm. Signals a need for the absence of social demand to focus. Often correlated with people-pleasing.
Substances are part of their identity signal or social toolkit. Routine use of alcohol, weed, microdosing, or conspicuous abstinence.
Anything else about this person — how they generally are, things you've noticed over time, how other people talk about them. Small details are as useful as big ones.
Fun facts, habits, personality, stories, how they treat people, what others say about them. Whatever comes to mind.
